5 Common Baby Sleep Myths

Today, I want to try to dispel some of the more popular baby sleep myths I’ve seen in parenting forums.

I can clearly remember, like most mothers I’m sure, the very moment I gave birth to my first child. I was absolutely buried in feelings of love and gratitude.

And then, about 10-15 seconds later, I was equally buried in advice, suggestions, and information.

This was all thrown at me with the best intentions. But it was overwhelming nonetheless. I can’t tell you the number of times I heard, “you should,” “you’ll want to,” and “you’ve got to.” If there’s no such number as a “kajillion,” it should be created specifically to measure the number of suggestions a new mother receives in her first year of motherhood.

Of course, those feelings of love and gratitude persist to this day. And so do the recommendations.

And that’s coming from an baby sleep expert, a sleep coach professional, in the child care field. I can only imagine the tidal waves of advice that must overwhelm a mother who openly asks for it.

There’s no such thing as a casual mom. This gig is full-time, no matter if you’re a stay-at-home-mom, a working mom, or somewhere in between. Your kids are on your mind 24/7, no matter what else might be going on. So we tend to do a lot of research. And with access to unlimited data via the internet, Barnes & Noble, or your mother-in-law, (the latter having the most to say, by a mile), it’s inevitable that we get some conflicting information.

So today, as a baby sleep consultant, I want to focus on my area of expertise. And I want to try to dispel some of the more popular baby sleep myths I’ve seen in parenting forums, heard from Mom groups I’ve talked with, or had angrily shouted in all caps on my Facebook page.

Baby Sleep Myths: #1 Sleeping Too Much During the Day Will Keep Baby Up at Night

Not likely, except in extreme cases. Unless your little one is sleeping practically all day and up all night, you probably don’t need to concern yourself with the length of their naps. Newborns especially need a lot of sleep. In fact, up until about 6 months, your baby shouldn’t be awake longer than 2 – 2.5 hours at a time. For newborns, that number is more like 45 minutes to an hour.

What keeps babies awake at night, more than anything else, is overtiredness. You might think that an exhausted baby is more likely to sack out for a full night than one who slept all day. But it’s actually just the opposite. The reason we refer to it as being “overtired” is because baby has missed the “tired” phase. And now their bodies start to kick back into gear, which keeps them from falling and staying asleep. Babies who got a decent amount of sleep during the day are far less likely to miss the sleep window.

There are substantial variations depending on baby’s age and the length of their naps, but up to that 6-month mark, it’s not uncommon for baby to be sleeping around 5 hours a day outside of nighttime sleep. So if your little one is still within those guidelines, let them snooze.

Baby Sleep Myths: #2 Sleeping is a Natural Development and Can’t be Taught

Sleeping is natural, absolutely. Everybody wakes up and falls back to sleep multiple times a night, regardless of their age. So no, you can’t teach a child to be sleepy. What can be taught, however, is the ability to fall back to sleep independently.

The typical “bad sleeper” of a baby isn’t less in need of sleep, or more prone to waking up. They’ve just learned to depend on outside assistance to get back to sleep when they wake up. Once your little one has figured out how to get to sleep without assistance from outside sources, they start stringing those sleep cycles together absolutely effortlessly. And that’s the secret to train baby to sleep through the night as most parents understand it.

Baby Sleep Myths: #3 Babies will Naturally Dictate Their Own Sleep Schedules

The idea that infant physiology is so flawlessly, naturally programmed to regulate a baby’s schedule is, to be blunt, laughable. Nothing against Mother Nature, but she doesn’t provide us with a ready-to-run baby like she does with say, the blue wildebeest. (Seriously? Walking six minutes after birth? Outrunning predators within a day? Our babies are cuter, but clearly not as prepared for battle straight out of the womb.)

Our babies need extensive care and help in their development. And their sleep cycles are unbelievably erratic if left unregulated. If they miss their natural sleep cycle by as little as a half hour, their cortisol production can increase which causes a surge in energy, and things quickly spiral out of control. As much as I wish babies could just fall asleep when they’re tired, it simply doesn’t work that way. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t respond to their cues, but you shouldn’t rely exclusively on them either.

Baby Sleep Myths: #4 Sleep Training is Stressful for the Baby and Can Affect the Parent-Child Attachment

Baby Sleep MythsNope. And this isn’t just me talking here. This is the American Academy of Pediatrics. If there’s a more reliable source of baby health information, they’re astoundingly bad at marketing themselves. And according to a 2016 study conducted by eight of their top researchers, behavioral intervention, (A.K.A Sleep training) “provide(s) significant sleep benefits above control, yet convey(s) no adverse stress responses or long-term effects on parent-child attachment or child emotions and behavior.” Not a whole lot of gray area there.

Baby Sleep Myths: #5 Babies are not “Designed” to Sleep Through the Night

Putting aside our religious beliefs for a moment, I think we can all agree that, even if babies were “designed” somehow. Whoever did the designing left plenty of room for some upgrades. Trusting your child’s physiology to dictate their sleep schedule, their eating habits, their behavior, or just about any other aspect of their upbringing is a recipe for disaster.

Is your toddler designed to eat three pounds of gummi bears? Surely not. Will they if you don’t intervene. Without a doubt. Is your baby designed to avoid predators? If so, nobody told my little ones, who would have happily hugged a hungry Siberian tiger if it approached them. (They might still, I don’t know.)

Our little ones need our expertise and authority to guide them through their early years. And they probably will for decades after that. This is especially true when it comes to their sleep. Some babies are naturally gifted sleepers. But don’t rely on the advice of those who tell you that babies should dictate their schedules. You’re in charge because as their parent YOU know best, even if it may not feel like it sometimes.

Research Trusted Sources

There are obviously plenty more baby sleep myths and misconceptions surrounding babies and their sleep habits, but these are some of the most important to get the facts on.

Remember, there are endless posts on social media and websites that portray themselves as factual. But there’s nothing stopping them from making that claim, regardless of their accuracy or basis in actual scientific research. Google scholar is a great place to find peer-reviewed scientific study on all things baby-related. Trusted sources like the American Academy of Pediatrics, the National Institutes of Health, Britain’s National Health Service, Canada’s Hospital for Sick Children, the World Health Organization, and other national children’s health organizations are also excellent sources of information you can feel confident about using to answer questions about your baby’s health.

And if you want more information about the benefits of sleep, I’m willing to talk about it to the point of obnoxiousness. So set up your complimentary 15-minute sleep evaluation now!

 

To healthy Sleep,

 

Kaley Medina, Your Houston & Dallas Sleep Consultant 

Toddler & Baby Sleep Consultant

(832) 640-5492

kaley@livelovesleep.com

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